Let's say you had a small bowl of golf balls, a small bowl of pebbles, and a bowl of sand. Let's say you wanted to put them all into the jar. If you started with the sand and poured it into the jar, you wouldn't be able to fit the pebbles all into the jar—nor all the golf balls.
The golf balls stand for the really important things in our lives. I'll give you an example from today in my life (at the risk of sounding like a know-it-all which is a joke for we all know I need all the help I can get! I'm the person who once tried to use a cell phone as a mouse for my laptop wondering just what was the problem with the cursor not budging. Not kidding you—that was me with about a few thousand other stories that unfortunately are terribly worse!!! One confession that haunts me is coming below. Keep reading).
Today some of my golf balls have included helping Mary get ready for school, taking her and picking her up from school, talking with my husband during lunch, attending Tuesday morning Bible study, and making some soup for my son who came home from school today with a stomach bug. (I say some because the day is not over, it is 4 o'clock P.M. EST on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 as I write this so there will be some more golf balls today!)
By the way, golf balls also include anything an authority in your life asked you to do.
My pebbles would be the things next in importance to be done today. Some of my pebbles included mailing our other daughter, Blair, some of her things she wanted and helping my younger daughter with her violin practice. I'm not positive, but I think my shower is a pebble. I definitely keep moving it around the golf balls. ☺
The sand stands for the other things that I still want to accomplish today that I "fill in" into the jar, because remember, if we start with the sand, we won't be able to get everything in the jar. One sand item is the load of laundry being dried as I hear the comforting humming of the dryer. (I say comforting because the dryer makes me feel empowered that I am accomplishing at least two things at one time!)
I sort of feel that if the sand got pushed to tomorrow, it would be okay. That's a good way to differentiate it from a golf ball item, or even a pebble. (Some items can move depending on their urgency. Paying a bill today that is not due for 2 weeks may be a sand item today, but if it is due in 2 days or there will be a hefty late fee, it just moved up to a golf ball.)
So now, at 4:00 P.M. I am able to write to you. I hope you are not offended that you are in the sand! My whole purpose in this little corner of cyberspace is to bring glory to God while encouraging you! But I know full well—if I start with you when I have golf balls to do—I may never get to my golf balls which would translate into not making my family a top priority and being a horrible witness to you!!!
So it is a win-win when I do it God's way! (I must admit that my nature if left to my own devices would be to write to you soon after my feet hit the floor---followed by checking my twitter and facebook accounts!) I have to guard against that desire & keep twitter and facebook in the "fill in" part so that I can keep the main thing...the main thing!
Some of you may be wondering...but Juana—where is your quiet time? Isn't that a golf ball in your life and you haven't even mentioned it today?
Yes it is a golf ball in the jar! It lays the foundation for the rest of the day as I read my Bible and pray. I also pray that the Lord will help me prioritize what I have planned for the day and He gives me direction as to what order to do things in.
BUT, on Tuesdays, because I go to Bible study—I don't have my quiet time early in the morning. Others do I know even on Bible study days and Sundays—but I don't have my quiet time early in the morning before the day gets going on those days. On those days, I have it later in the day (like on Sundays, it is usually not until about 4 o'clock in the afternoon for me.)
I also wanted to mention a big golf ball in my life that is, well—not even in the jar on most days. That is exercise. I confess to you that it needs to be, but it is not right now. I need to change that. (I would covet your prayers on that).
Well, I was going to give you some more teaching today via my time hearing speaker and author Nancy Cobb just a couple of weeks ago. I think the golf ball post was needed more today for someone. Maybe I'm the only one who needed to be reminded of that analogy! So we will pick back up with our marriage talk next time.
For new readers, you can read the first part of my notes from Nancy's talk on "Jump Start Your Marriage in Three Days," by clicking here.
The gist of the notes so far from Nancy said:
- Invite Jesus into your marriage
- Avoid the curse of Eve
- Live under grace
- Remain sane and sober
- Be forgiving or God will come after you
Next time, we will pick up on Nancy's very next point to jump start your marriage!
Walk by Faith,