tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8728787266076350075.post7130998378128158244..comments2023-11-17T07:14:26.059-05:00Comments on JuanaMikels.com: Ten Rules for Mother-in-Laws By Elisabeth ElliotJuana Mikelshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12451242729608121595noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8728787266076350075.post-41538820616353158102019-03-21T22:51:24.599-04:002019-03-21T22:51:24.599-04:00Thanks for guidenceThanks for guidenceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8728787266076350075.post-14643756074590380892017-05-08T13:20:51.587-04:002017-05-08T13:20:51.587-04:00Thank you for sharing this gem. I heard this epis...Thank you for sharing this gem. I heard this episode on BBN a few weeks ago and planned to relisten to I could write the key points down. Unfortunately it was take off the air before I had the chance. So happy my little google search brought me to your page so I could have a copy of her "rules". Blessings to you!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16357944348284103102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8728787266076350075.post-14975362835116624922015-06-24T18:08:03.220-04:002015-06-24T18:08:03.220-04:00Can I also add - don't keep telling your daugh...Can I also add - don't keep telling your daughter/son-in-law how lucky they are to be married to your son or daughter. It makes them feel worthless and like they are not measuring up. It feels the same as saying "You aren't good enough for my son/daughter."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8728787266076350075.post-46646299108249671782014-12-12T14:11:26.744-05:002014-12-12T14:11:26.744-05:00Hi; I was drawn to this site, looking for ways to ...Hi; I was drawn to this site, looking for ways to pray for my daughter in law. She is a beautiful woman, that does not know Christ. We have gone through "hell" with my x-daughter in law and her boyfriend. They have been alienating our four grandchildren from us for 4 years now. One child is emotionally gone from us. The other three are teeter-totting. I am learning to trust God and stick very close to his word. This has been a heartbreaking thing for us to go through. I love my son and grandchildren more than life itself, but, not more than my God, through Jesus. Any encouragement out there.Doc Taylorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10462766956983419187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8728787266076350075.post-53730018467200839352014-04-22T19:36:32.173-04:002014-04-22T19:36:32.173-04:00Beautiful! Yes I am praying for Joshua, my son, an...Beautiful! Yes I am praying for Joshua, my son, and for the wife he may marry one day. God bless you! Patsy from <br><a href="http://patsypat.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">HeARTworks</a><br />HeARTworkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14953317888563627979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8728787266076350075.post-34339084420664718642013-11-06T13:46:38.674-05:002013-11-06T13:46:38.674-05:00Thank you so much for this. First of all, I absolu...Thank you so much for this. First of all, I absolutely adore Elisabeth Elliot (and that is based only on reading her writings... what an amazing blessing to have actually KNOWN her!) Secondly, my oldest has been married since last December. I love my son in law, I bite my tongue a LOT as the kids struggle and learn together and have been known to back away even from asked-for advice because I want them to find their own way. My own mother is very, VERY overbearing and I have never wanted to be that. I must be doing something right... I get giant bear hugs every time we meet or leave each other (and as my son in law is a very big guy, his bear hugs really are giant!) and we spend at least one afternoon a week or more together... he loves playing with his little brother and sisters in law... These "rules" will help guide me even more!!Elisabethhttp://plantinggodlyseeds.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8728787266076350075.post-45544841638917194232013-10-31T18:28:27.789-04:002013-10-31T18:28:27.789-04:00I just love that you took the time to show us how ...I just love that you took the time to show us how you have lived the other side of this. The Lord knows exactly who He has for our mothers, and all our past for that matter and He wants to use everything to conform us to His image. My mother is in her 80s, & when she sees me she says, "Everytime I look at you, I want to cry! Your hair! It used to be so thick! Stop washing your hair so much!" Aaahhh, Mama! She doesn't know her job of raising a little girl is over. But that can teach us so much... patience, forebearance, graciousness... Of course, I blow it sometimes with my mother, and have to apologize to which she says, "Don't apologize to me, I'm your mother!" All the more reason, I need to say that I'm sorry, and not take my little 85 year old mother for granted. I'm blessed to still have my mom. She was born one year and one day before Elisabeth Elliot. Isn't that something? I love what you said about ministering over Internet. I always wanted to teach & had no idea it would be through typing! God bless you, Nan! So glad we've now "met"! You can wear your jeans and sweatshirt any ole time at my house, too! May we be good daughters by God's grace to a world that needs the love of Jesus!Juana Mikelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12451242729608121595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8728787266076350075.post-43483599213353136682013-10-31T16:54:40.513-04:002013-10-31T16:54:40.513-04:00Wonderful advice! I am a brand new mother-in-law....Wonderful advice! I am a brand new mother-in-law. Our oldest son married his lovely wife one month ago. I have a sweet mom who found it very difficult to stop parenting me, and continued to try to give advice about my clothing and hair (etc.) even though I am a grown up and married with children of my own, lol!<br /><br />I once was wearing a sweatshirt and jeans to go to the mall and she said "You're wearing THAT. You can't wear that, you're a pastor's wife!" I said it was o.k., pastor's wives could wear sweatshirts in the winter time, lol! ;)<br /><br />I had to patiently and prayerfully work with her and try to remind her that her job of raising me was done in that respect. She just felt like it was still her responsibility to talk with me about things she didn't like (such as don't wear socks, wear nylons instead); perm your hair, etc.) and personal preferences and parenting ideas, and she saw it as part of her job as a parent. My age did not matter to her as I was still her child and so she still saw it as her role.<br /><br />And I am so proud of her and how she has learned to let me wear my hair the way that I want and the clothes that I want without commenting for the most part, and raise our children how we have felt led by the Lord to do. She still has her moments but has come a long way.<br /><br />That is the lesson that I want to remember for our children too. To know that I am done raising them and that they are adults and their spouse (and future spouse) are adults as well. And really, does it matter how they wear their hair? ;)<br /><br />I love how your story shows that you can mentor over long distance. We don't have to be stopped by a face to face experience and are free to encourage and build up in the Lord whomever the Lord brings across our paths!momsthewordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14519343990735608713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8728787266076350075.post-70092548998687291862013-10-31T11:21:19.889-04:002013-10-31T11:21:19.889-04:00Yes, Nicole! There is a lot of application for jus...Yes, Nicole! There is a lot of application for just releasing of older children, isn't there? So glad you pointed that out. So sorry for your shattered experience during those years in your life. It is a strong challenge to us as parents and or future mother-in-laws, and those who currently are both. Stay strong in grace, Sister!Juana Mikelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12451242729608121595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8728787266076350075.post-37302922407534538642013-10-31T10:46:19.140-04:002013-10-31T10:46:19.140-04:00Very interesting list of rules. I think every pare...Very interesting list of rules. I think every parent- not just mothers-in-law - need to think about this list, especially #2. The transition from a parent-child relationship to a parent-adult relationship is tricky, and if not handled properly by the parent, the relationship will be shattered. Speaking from personal experience with my parents.<br /><br />Thank you for your post.<br /><br />Blessings,<br />Nicole @ WKHNicolehttp://workingkansashomemaker.comnoreply@blogger.com